8 January 2013

2013 Bucket List: The Friday Five Edition (posted late as usual)

Hello faithful readers of five!

Today's blog is not so much about a 2013 resolution, but more like a commitment. Call it a bucket list of what I want to achieve this year. This was originally supposed to be posted on Friday but I was sick with the flu. When you are done, and have commented (because comments are my she-ra sword), then head over to Joanne's blog post on this very same subject!

5) Be selfish & stand up for myself. 

Seems like an odd thing to want. However, as I discovered in 2012, this action is essential for both my physical and mental health. To sit by quietly while someone tries to piss on you is not "keeping the peace." It's not even trench warfare. It's laying down and being shat on is what that is.

I am done with dealing with passive-aggressive people who throw digs while pretending to be nice for the sake of martyrdom. Screw you.

I am done with nagging feelings of doubt about the quality of my work or the contributions I add to the discussion because you are insecure about your own enough to tear down mine.

Don't like that? Tough titty for the kitty. I am not your punching bag. I am not your slave. I am not your therapist. I am putting myself first, and you better be prepared for that.

4) Limit my social media time. 

Confession: I have missed what other people have said to me, including my husband, because I was looking at Facebook or Twitter.

Ironic since I hate it when I go out with friends or family and everyone is glued to the phone. But I am slowly becoming that person. I forgot my phone for Christmas Eve dinner. I thought it would be OK. I can handle one night without my iPhone right? Well I won't lie and say I didn't get...um...twitchy. Especially when at one point at the table I was sitting at, everyone there's head was down, looking at their smart phone, not even talking to me or each other. The living room where the rest of the family was assembled was no better. The next day, I must have checked my phone at least 20 times, as if I missing someones tweet was going critical to my well being.

I appreciate being connected to people so easily. I appreciate making new friends.

But what good is being connected if we are truly not connecting

Most people, especially on Twitter, aren't really interested in my point of view. They (like me) are more interested in sharing their points of view.  I have seen friendships fall apart over posts on Facebook and Twitter (over politics and other "issues"). I have gone months without seeing my actual real-life friends and family, as if somehow, Facebook or Twitter is enough to sustain that connection. It's not for me. I assure you. However, I am guilty of doing the things I so despise.

If I miss things my husband is saying, then a line has to be drawn somewhere. BALANCE has to be part of the social media equation. (Blogging excluded of course... he he).

Let's not even begin to discuss how much time has been wasted at the expense of other meaningful activity...which leads me to my next bucket-list item!

3) Get more active

Things I discovered in 2012:

  1. Activity helps me lose weight, feel energized, contributes to my overall health improvement, improves my mood, and strengthens my connections with others.
  2. Lack of activity causes plateaus, weight-gain, fatigue, health problems, adds to my negative feelings about myself, and weakens my connections with others. 
Remind me again why I am not out there every single day for at least 30 minutes? Remind me again how hard it is to find 30 minutes when I can easily waste that amount of time watching shows on TV I don't even like, or scrolling Twitter and Facebook?

There really is no excuses for avoiding what I actually enjoy. There are so many things I can do at my current weight (like aqua-size, walks around Beaumaris Lake, the elliptical etc..), that any excuse is pitiful at best.

2) Lose weight and stop putting crap in the trap. 
Source: Someecards.com

I know that the easiest thing to do is cut my calories, watch my portions, and eat more of the healthy stuff. I know how to do it. I know the tips and tricks on how to create safe environments. I even know how to eat out in a way that is safe and controlled.

So if I know all of this stuff - if I am this oracle of weight-loss knowledge - how come I am not living the knowledge? How come I am abusing my body with crap food?

I will work on this. I already am to some degree. However, what I am thinking I am lacking is respect for the food that is produced to make me healthy, and respect for my body to seek those foods.

1) Life my life to the fullest potential with grace.
Source: The Biggest Loser, NBC
Good question Bob. What am I going to do with it?

I firmly believe that if I implement the principals above, I will be living my life to the fullest possible potential in 2013 and beyond.  There is absolutely nothing to hold me back but myself. I believe that I will achieve these goals with a good attitude.

I must be grateful the gifts in my life (including my very breath) that God has loaned out to me. That is right. Loaned out. Not given. He can very easily take those away - call in his chips as it were. Nothing is guaranteed to be permanent, good or bad. It is not my life to live. It is His. And I owe it to Him to be the best of me and represent Him well.

I must be authentic to Him. I must be authentic to myself.

Here is a song that I think best represents my life going forward.

It's Your Life

Album: My Paper Heart

Artist: Francesca Battistelli
This is the moment
It’s on the line
Which way you gonna fall?
In the middle between 
Wrong and right
But you know after all

It’s your life 
What you gonna do?
The world is watching you
Every day the choices you make
Say what you are and who
Your heart beats for 
It’s an open door
It’s your life

Are you who you always said you would be?
With a sinking feeling in your chest
Always waiting for someone else to fix you
Tell me when did you forget

To live the way that you believe 
This is your opportunity 
To let your life be one that lights the way

Here is a video if you want to hear they lyrics. 

Thanks for peeking into my life and thoughts this week. Share your bucket list items in the comments!



Anonymous said...

Dani, I agree with you 100%! I feel we all could use a break from the Interwebs and could use more connection with ourselves and the world around us, which plays into eating and exercising and the rest of it. Except, sitting on the couch with a box of Zebra Cakes and the TV and Twitter on your phone feels good (not that I did this last night). It's just breaking the cycle.

I'll let you know how I do! Happy 2013!

Dani said...

Hi Junebabe!

See, for me it is about balance. The mistake most people make in giving up their unhealthy habits is that they go to the extreme other side and give up things they don't need, which leads to failure.

There is nothing wrong with TV, or Zebra Cakes, or Twitter. It's just that when the majority of your time is TV or Twitter, and the majority of your daily calories is Zebra cakes, then there is an imbalance.

Balancing comfort with an active lifestlye requires an serious review.